The need to succeed is a natural human desire, yet for Black women, our success is beyond simple bragging rights or a pat on the back. Our success represents something bigger than our own personal victory. The issue is that this desire presents an added pressure to be perfect and not mess up because we constantly feel the responsibility to not fail, we cannot afford to fail. Unfortunately, this pressure keeps us from meeting ourselves where we are. Meaning, we don’t allow space to just be an imperfect human. We don’t want to mess up because then that means something is wrong with us and we have to fix it and fixing it means beating ourselves up which causes us suffering.
I want you to know that we are allowed to mess up sometimes. We won’t always get it right and that’s ok. Listen in to learn how to give yourself grace and meet yourself where you are.