I have a fun episode for you today! I want to talk about being a grown a** woman.
If you’re a mother, you may have cultivated “the look” that you give to your kids that lets them know that the thing they are asking is not up for negotiation or whatever they are doing stops now. That signature look says that you’ve established intentional boundaries and remained consistent with enforcing them.
Guess what? We can do the same thing with our brains. When we find that we are not showing up for ourselves in a way that we want to, like we set a desire to do something, and then we don’t do it, its time to be a grown a** woman and set some boundaries with our brain so that when we make a commitment to ourselves to do something and life happens rather than allowing our brains give us all the reason why we can’t, we can give our brain “the look” that says the decision has been made, this is not a negotiation.
From there we will transition into curiosity mode and seek out a solution of how we can do the thing we committed to do. Listen in to learn how.
And if you are struggling with getting yourself to do what you say you want to do and want help with managing your brain so that you can stop telling yourself the same story and creating the same result over and over again, then join the waitlist for my group coaching program starting in March 2022.
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Last week we played the what-if game. What if all these obnoxious thoughts we had on consistent bases had nothing to do with our worthiness yet they continue to hinder us from creating epic shit? Right.
Today we are going to play the what-if game. As high achieving women being marginalized and growing up in the way that we have, we’ve been conditioned with all these negative thoughts in our brains that we have to fight against on a daily basis. Things like I’m wrong. I’m unworthy. I can’t do this. Who am I to think of doing some epic sh*t?
Do you know how these series get us hooked and cause us to binge-watch? It’s because they end each episode with a cliffhanger that leaves your brain wanting to know and figure out what will happen next. And so you keep watching one episode after another until you’ve binge-watched the series.
If you are old enough to have played Candyman as a child you can remember entering a dimly lit room (usually the bathroom), standing in front of a mirror, and saying the name “Candyman” five times in a row. The expectation is that the monster will show up behind you. This experience caused you to intentionally put yourself in a scary situation.
You guys know how I am always talking about self-coaching, right? That’s because I truly believe that it is a powerful tool to aid in your growth on your journey to accomplish epic shit.
As a coach of high-achieving women, I find that so many of us have stopped dreaming. Our ancestors sacrificed for us so that we have what they dreamed of and now that we are successful and comfortable we have stopped dreaming. There are many reasons for this that include us not waiting to fail or appear to be greedy.