If you are old enough to have played Candyman as a child you can remember entering a dimly lit room (usually the bathroom), standing in front of a mirror, and saying the name “Candyman” five times in a row. The expectation is that the monster will show up behind you. This experience caused you to intentionally put yourself in a scary situation. I remember being so scared that I would never make it to the count of five before flipping the lights back on.
Here is the thing, some of us are still playing Canyman with ourselves. We have painful experiences in our past that we constantly bring up when we want to do epic shit. I get it, playing Candyman with ourselves, intentionally scaring ourselves, prevents us from doing or creating the same thing again in the future but this is hindering our progress and growth.
Rather than viewing your past from a place of fear, you can view it from a place of empowerment. Tune in to learn how to make this shift.
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Last week we played the what-if game. What if all these obnoxious thoughts we had on consistent bases had nothing to do with our worthiness yet they continue to hinder us from creating epic shit? Right.
Today we are going to play the what-if game. As high achieving women being marginalized and growing up in the way that we have, we’ve been conditioned with all these negative thoughts in our brains that we have to fight against on a daily basis. Things like I’m wrong. I’m unworthy. I can’t do this. Who am I to think of doing some epic sh*t?
Have you ever thought to yourself, “they don’t get me”? Listen, if you’re a high-achieving black woman, you’re probably talking about some things that some people don’t get.
Do you know how these series get us hooked and cause us to binge-watch? It’s because they end each episode with a cliffhanger that leaves your brain wanting to know and figure out what will happen next. And so you keep watching one episode after another until you’ve binge-watched the series.
I always say that safe people create epic shit and do it in a sustainable way but how do you develop an internal feeling of safety? You may wonder if or even believe that a haven of serenity exists inside of you, but it does. Queens, it does.
Attached to form means that you are attached to the way you think something is supposed to look. You have a singular idea of how you are supposed to achieve something.