Have you ever thought to yourself, “they don’t get me”? Listen, if you’re a high-achieving black woman, you’re probably talking about some things that some people don’t get.
Here is the thing, secretly we want them to get us. This is a primal instinct to want to feel like we are understood and we belong. So when we’re different, and people start making reference to it. There’s this discomfort. And that’s what I want to talk about.
As we recognize and honor that desire within ourselves to create our epic shit, not everyone will get us. And that is okay. What we tend to do in response to this is to think that we are wrong or go on a mission to prove to them that we are right. By doing this, we’re using precious resources of our brain, trying to solve for people to get us. You are wasting the energy that is needed to actually solve the problem of us creating our epic shit.
Here is what you should do instead. Listen in to learn more.
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As high-achieving women, we are always leveling up and achieving new heights of success. One thing that is certain when you succeed is the various expectations that you place on yourself and that others place on you.
Today we will continue our conversation about the ABCs that you need to accomplish epic shit. Last week I shared that the C of the ABC is circulation. We must make a decision and commitment to circulate our epic shit into the world so that others can benefit. But before we can circulate effectively the first thing that we need to have is Agency. This is the belief that you know that you are capable of doing epic shit. This week we will discuss the B of the ABC which is building self-trust on purpose.
Last week we played the what-if game. What if all these obnoxious thoughts we had on consistent bases had nothing to do with our worthiness yet they continue to hinder us from creating epic shit? Right.
Today we are going to play the what-if game. As high achieving women being marginalized and growing up in the way that we have, we’ve been conditioned with all these negative thoughts in our brains that we have to fight against on a daily basis. Things like I’m wrong. I’m unworthy. I can’t do this. Who am I to think of doing some epic sh*t?
Contrary to what you may have heard, in most cases, you get more benefit from sharing your desire than if you don’t, and the most important person you need to share it with consistently is YOU.
Do you know how these series get us hooked and cause us to binge-watch? It’s because they end each episode with a cliffhanger that leaves your brain wanting to know and figure out what will happen next. And so you keep watching one episode after another until you’ve binge-watched the series.